How many times have you heard those two words? “Just be yourself!” “Be yourself, everyone else is taken.”
It seems like such an easy sentiment, but how many of us struggle with being ourselves? You don’t have to raise your hand, but I’ll go ahead and admit that it’s hard!
Whether you’re in school and being influenced by what is popular or you’re at work trying to be what your job needs you to be or you’re on social media trying to be what’s most viewed, it can be really hard to be yourself. So much so that those words have almost lost their meaning. What does it mean to be yourself?
For me, being myself is allowing myself to do what I like to do without thinking about what people think. Obviously, there are some limitations (I’m not going to do crack and not care what others think because crack is whack and it’s illegal), but I need to care more about the things that matter to me and less about how other people will think about the things I do.
In the social media sense, you may have noticed that I really don’t blog as much as I used to. I’m not the best writer and I feel like I can’t express myself well in writing. I’ve switched over to YouTube as my main platform and I LOVE it, but it is a TOTALLY different world from blogging. I notice that a lot of my favorite channels have a very common set up: bright lighting, white backgrounds, glitter backdrops- the works. Is that a bad thing? Absolutely NOT. I love the content of these channels. I did notice, however, that, when I started making videos, I would pull so much inspiration from these channels that I was accidentally trying to imitate them. I thought that if I acted like those people that the rest of my channel would follow suit. That didn’t happen. Glittery backdrops didn’t appear and my subscriber count didn’t shoot to a million. When I look back at those videos, it’s actually kind of cringeworthy. I look stiff and uncomfortable. It wasn’t until I said, “wait, this isn’t me” and rebranded everything that I really got comfortable. When I changed Keeping Carrie Fit to Carrie Crista, I was much more comfortable and confident in my content. Even further, I cut out the DIY stuff and decided to focus more on just health and beauty and I feel even BETTER about my content.
If you don’t like doing something, don’t do it. If you have a blog and you don’t want to make a million images for pinterest or headers or footers or whatever, don’t do it. If you want to focus on JUST old school Nintendo, do it. Don’t feel like you have to do what other people do to reach a larger audience because you’ll look back and realize that the content you hate doesn’t really do well anyways.
The point is, things got easier and things are going better now that I’m able to really be myself.
I’ve had to put this into practice in my real life as well. There have been some changes in my life and I’m really learning that I can’t be happy until I am who I want to be. Not who someone at church or work or a friend wants me to be. I heard the other day, ” You can’t be all things to all people,” and that really resonated with me. My life is for ME to live. I need to decide what is important to me and be THOSE things. What’s important to me?
- Being the best wife I can be to my husband- which, admittedly, I need to work on in some aspects.
- Being the best mother I can be to my daughter.
- Being a hard worker
- Enjoying art and music
- Strengthening my faith in God and really practicing what I believe on days that aren’t Sunday
- Being healthy and fit so I can be energized and healthy enough to be the first two things on this list.
There are other things that are important to me, of course, but those are just a few.
Bottom line, when it comes to my life, I’m working on putting stock into the things that matter to me. I’m working on being myself.